Categories: Divorce

Anger is Like Drinking Poison

I read this saying a few years ago in Oprah magazine. “Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” I actually had to think about that for a second and then it sunk in. Simple words but they can be life changing. I have seen angry clients, really really angry clients. And, they do themselves and their families no good. They are not positive to be around and they are oftentimes difficult and unrealistic. Some of them become very toxic and want everyone to see things through their mad goggles. It is hard to get them to stop and think. As attorneys, we are oftentimes counselors. But a counselor is much better suited for that than attorneys. We handle the legal issues and sometimes the legal issues are far ahead of the emotional issues that a client experiences. But anger only hurts you. It makes you miserable and makes those around you miserable. It keeps you from seeing the best in the other side. It keeps you from being reasonable. It keeps you from feeling good. So, consider not drinking the poison and see if that helps you feel better. 

Cindy Best

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