Calm Down and Carry On

Yes, for sure divorce is stressful and it is hard. It is hard on you, your kids, your family and your friends. How can you help yourself with all this stress? You have heard it all before: gets plenty of sleep, exercise, eat right, and socialize. There is a real reason to stay healthy when you are under stress. It helps you make better decisons. You cannot be in a fog and make good directions because you cannot see where you are going. You do not want to sleepwalk your way through your divorce because you might wake up from a nightmare. 

Instead, write things down. Read things slowly and read them over and over. Talk things over with your friends or family or counselor. Help your attorney when she asks you for information. Understand what you may be entitled to and make a plan on what you want. Get clear on your objectives and your plans. Know how you want things to look when this whole thing is over. Know what you can compromise on and what is a deal breaker. Treat this like any other major decision. Gather information, read, learn, slow down and decide. It always helps to write things down so you are certain in what you want. Make sure you are being realistic and reasonable. And take a walk, a bubble bath, listen to music and find joy in what you have, not in what you losing.  All this sounds like preaching, but it is not meant to be. You have heard all this before because it is worth listening to.