If Your Future Self Gave You a Call

You are going through a terrible, stressful, expensive divorce and custody battle. Fast forward 5 years and wonder what your future self would tell you now…

Dear Self:

You will get through this. You are strong. And, here is some advice for you along the way. Please understand what you are doing. Read and ask questions and understand the law and the consequences of your decisions. Make sure that your attorney, if you have one, is patient and wants you to understand things. And if something seems wrong or you disagree, speak up. Make sure you see the big picture. Look at the end game. Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it is not all small stuff but know what is important to you. Set some goals…what are your deal breakers?  Are you being fair? Are you being too fair (is there such a thing?). Are you listening to your instincts? Are you being greedy or short sighted? Are you proud of the way you are handling things?

Please take care of yourself and get empowered. Do not have a daily pity party for yourself. You are the captain of your ship and you can make changes and move forward in a positive direction. The better you take care of yourself and the better and more positive you are; the better able you are to make good, solid, rational decisions now. And, remember…you will be here for your future self and so will your children and perhaps your ex. So, know that what you decide now will impact those future relationships.

Close your eyes and picture your future self happy, peaceful, calm, and secure.  Now open your eyes and work hard to get there.