Who Can I Be Mad At?

You are going through a tough divorce. You are angry at your spouse. You are angry at the court, the judge, and the State of Arizona and all those rules. You are angry at your kids, perhaps. You might even hate the lawyer on the other side. You have enough anger to go a long way around to lots and lots of people. And then finally you might even start being angry at your own attorney. They cannot make everything right in your world. They cannot control the judge, your soon to be ex, or the attorney on the other side. So you decide you should be angry at your lawyer…although your attorney, above all those people on your anger list, are on your side. They advocate for you. They work hard for you. They listen to you. So, maybe you are angry at too many people and too many wrong people. Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. So, not only is anger bad for you, it is bad to be angry at your cheerleader, the advocate who is dong their best to help you through this difficult process. And sometimes, you might just wonder how you contributed to this mess and work hard to untangle it and make the best of a bad situation. That might go further to solve the problems instead of walking around in the quicksand of anger that gets you no where at all.