Tom Brady and Gisele Bunchen did it right. I don’t know either of them nor do I even know anyone connected to their divorce. And I don’t know Florida divorce law. But I can share with you several insights that are worth noting. If you are going through a divorce, get out your notepad. First, do things privately. Very privately. In Arizona we can do similar to what they did but there is still a 60 day cooling off period. But you can get your ducks in a row and get it done in private. Second, they hired attorneys. Even the GOAT Tom Brady doesn’t know all about divorce law. Unless you practice law and have a great deal of experience in divorce law, you would be in Tom’s boat…not too shabby. A competent divorce lawyer will help guide you, empower you, explain the law and be able to write your decisions in a legal fashion that will be upheld if there is a dispute. Third, they put their kids first. While they negotiated: the kids were always first and they just figured it out. If the kids are the center of your decisions, you can do the same. And last, they have not bad talked about or to each other. Some report that Tom didn’t want the divorce but if true, that has not caused him to sink to the level of bad mouthing the mother of his children. And neither should you. Take the high road, it is for your mental health, your kids’ mental health and bodes for a happier life. Gisele is to be given a lot of credit for how this all happened. She most likely was driving the boat since she wanted the divorce. Statistics show that more women than men initiate divorce. That means that women have the unique opportunity to start everything out on the right foot. Gisele seems to have taken that first very wise step to keep everything civil and private. Kudos to this family for doing it the right way. You can put your pencil down now.