Leave or stay, that is the question. If you or your spouse are going through a divorce, this can be a difficult and complex answer. If there is any history of domestic violence, then it is much better to live apart than to allow your spouse to continue to abuse you. If you are the abuser, then why do you want to stay and escalate the abuse? So, what is domestic violence in a marriage? It might be different than you think because it involves far more than physical violence. It can include name calling, door slamming, erratic behavior at all hours of the day and night, stalking your spouse’s whereabouts and texts, the silent treatment coupled with any of these other behaviors, threats, intimidation, not letting you leave a room, throwing objects, putting you in fear for your safety and well being. All ugly stuff. So if any of that is going on, the two of you would be safer apart.