If you are a mother, it is because you have kids. I have an observation to make about mother’s who go through divorce and the thoughts about children. Sometimes mothers get divorced for reasons that are unrelated to the husband/father’s behavior or love toward his children. In those families, it makes sense to share responsibilities for raising the children. In other families, mothers are leaving the marriage because of abuse. So here comes the stunner: if a mother cannot handle the abuse and has decided to leave the marriage, why would she leave her children alone to cope with the father/husband that she could not cope with? If you are leaving to protect yourself, does it make sense to leave your children behind? People who abuse their spouse have a high percentage chance of abusing their children. That seems logical. Children cannot protect themselves, they need adults to protect them. Yes, it is all about the kids.