The sad truth is that some attorneys can make divorces worse. You will know those attorneys when you meet them. Those used car sales attorneys do not want to educate you about the process and they do not want you to make your own decisions. They are rude to other counsel and they act like your divorce is their personal divorce. They are not objective and they tell you what you want to know instead of what really is. That lawyer does not listen to what is most important to you. It is a bit like being on a used car lot and driving off with a clunker. You will know when it is being jammed down your throat. So, how do you know a good, competent, experienced attorney? You might not remember what they told you, but you will remember how they made you feel. Do you feel like they care? Do you feel like they listened? You will know.