Do you have a picture in your mind about mediation? Perhaps it includes sitting in the same room with someone you are starting to hate and you are trying to figure out how this can possibly work out. Our mediations are not like that. We can talk with both parties in the same room but I have always found that the parties find it much more comfortable if everyone is in their own space and have a comfort level so they can talk to the mediator and express their concerns without repercussions from a soon to be ex. So, put on your jeans, come to the office, grab a cup of coffee, write on your yellow legal pad, ask the mediator/attorney your questions. Come up with a plan, present it to the other side and get things resolved.