This is the start of a new year and you might feel energized with hope that 2021 will be better than 2020. No one knows yet how the year will unfold but one thing is for certain. There will be more change and more challenges ahead and nothing will stay the same. As you navigate these challenges please remember that your children are also experiencing these changes in their own ways. As you take care of yourself, you will also have the task of helping your children navigate these difficult waters. I have no great advice here but I can offer a suggestion. Be kind to yourself and to others. There are different ways to go through a divorce and a scorched earth policy is a terrible idea. It is always a bad idea but in a pandemic, it is even more so. Do not add any more weight to your burdens. Think kinder, think gentler and know that a divorce can actually be conducted on the high road. You can help control this part of life so this is something to think about. Of course you cannot control your partner but you can do your best to set a good example and think carefully as you make these major decisions. Here’s to hoping that 2021 is happier. Stay safe everyone.