Your child does not want to be in the middle of an adult tug of war. If you have child custody issues with your former partner, make certain it does not spill over into your relationship with your children. Cooperate with your former partner so you can each share these happy holiday times with you kids. You are helping create childhood memories for your children?make them happy memories! Be the better person and practice peace and forgiveness of your former partner; for the sake of the children.