I got a call the other day from a father who is being denied time with his child. I don’t know all the facts yet but I do know that children need people who love them. If parents are fighting about the children because they are used as pawns of revenge, they have to stop. If they are limiting access because of drugs, violence, mental instability, and so forth: that makes perfect sense. Stop and think about your motives if you are in this situation. You want your child safe? You want your child to grow up with a solid sense of self? You want your child to be loved by family. Perhaps during this holiday, it is a good time to rethink your attitude. And if you are that missing parent, perhaps it is time to step up. Your children need you.