In other words, does a divorce have to include conflict? I really do not think so. Stop and think about the potentials for conflict if you are going through a divorce. Are you being greedy? Are you being reasonable? Do you know the well settled law in Arizona or are you fighting against all odds? It seems like preaching to the choir but if two people want to get divorced and want to do it amicably, it can be done. You might need a mediator (neutral third party) to help you but that is better than litigation. An experienced family law mediator can help identify the issues, find creative ways to solve the problems and encourage a win win solution. You deserve that much as you go through these difficult times.